In previous posts I have emphasized the importance of paying it forward, the fulfillment of performing random acts of kindness, the results of positive thinking and the necessity of setting SMART goals. But what happens when none of this works? What happens when you do everything that is required of you and still fail? What about when you've prayed, planned and prepared and still come up short? This is probably the last thing you want to hear, but I'm going to tell you any ways. It's all apart of the process!
Trust me, I know a thing or two about defeat. On the track (I'm a former athlete) and off. One of the main things we must keep in mind is the fact that failure is inevitable, and everybody experiences it. Failure does not care about how much you have in the bank, how cute you look or how smart you are. There is no dodging failure, but the way you handle failure proves whether or not you deserve what ever it is you are working so hard for.
It is much easier to kick and scream and throw a tantrum, because we've been taught since preschool that losing is bad and winning is good. However, at this point in our lives we cannot afford to give up and throw in the towel. You and I both know that you have people depending on you. So hear are 5 ways to get out of the funk, shake it off and get your head back into the game.
1) Think of losing as a positive thing. "What the heck is this lady taking about?" I know, I know, but hear me out. When you see failure as something positive you open up yourself to the fact that you have something to learn. It won't continue to hold you down, and eventually you will be able to look at the bigger picture.
2) Life is a lesson, and since losing is apart of life. Losing is a lesson too. A harsh lesson, but a lesson nonetheless. "What could I have possibly learnt?" I'm glad you asked. You just learnt another way of how NOT to achieve your goal. So try something different.
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"I have not failed, I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work" - Thomas A. Edison
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3) It is not permanent. Nothing lasts forever including that emotional feeling that accompanies failure. It's so easy to stress on a defeat for days or even weeks. But that's not healthy for you or the people around you. Get out of your head, what's done is done. You are entitled to your feelings, but at some point you must move on.
4) Seek guidance from experts. Do not be afraid to ask for help. I guarantee you are not going through this alone. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, we are never too old to learn and seek counsel.
5) NEVER GIVE UP!!
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